Remember before the pandemic, when people asked, "How are you?" and everyone always said, "Busy." "So busy."
Today as I took my daughter to get a haircut, we saw an acquaaintance leaving the hairdresser just before we were about to enter. As there is only one client at a time, this was a highly unusual meeting--the kind that often happened for me before the pandemic, but that never happens these days. When I asked the mom how she was she said, "Good; really busy."
Really? Really busy? During the pandemic? I happen to know that no one in that family is an essential worker, which truly left me wondering, what is she busy with? Then of course I remembered, she has a few young children, and who knows what projects she and her partner are up to. Yes, I can imagine that they might be busy. What was fascinating was how surprised I was by her response of being busy.
What do we fill our lives with? This week I spent hours watching the news about the white supremacist insurrection in the Congress. Right now I am typing on this computer. And then I hope to go make tea. What is the next thing that we are looking to do? This is the question that human design helps us focus on. What activities are worthwhile, and how do we decide on the next activity?
This past March, as the fact of the pandemic became our lives, there was so much we were planning to do with our free time. Remember? In my family we were baking challah together every Friday over Whatsapp. Many people had not really started working again. We were deciding to take up instruments or sourdough, and we were zooming with old friends or far away relatives. Remember? What did you take up? What did you "do" with your time? And was it satisfying? Did it bring you peace? Did you notice what you didn't do as well? Did you notice if you had moments of NOTHING TO DO?
Often there is a disconnect or an outright conflict when we look back on our time. We did one thing, and wish we had done another. We want to do one thing, but end up watching 7 hours of Netflix instead. We are often hard on ourselves about this. This is one of the many, many kinds of behaviors that human design can shed some light on.
Ultimately, I hope that you understand that, actually, what you did was what you had to do, or maybe what you even would have preferred to do. Human design empowers you to live a life where regrets get replaced by amusement, where nervousness transforms into curiosity, were frustration becomes satisfaction.